SATURDAY

A good, active day. I took the 10:45 city bus to midtown, purposely being early for my 12:30 lunch date with Noreen because I wanted to see what the Bargain Box had for Halloween. They had plenty and I bought slacks and shorts with ghostly thems, plus a top, and a few other items. Danny's Deli, where we were meeting is only a half-block away, and I strolled down there in the lovely sunshine. There were two gentleman playing instruments outside and I took a picture: 

Noreen came and we went in to have big Ceasar salads, plus my IPA and her champagne. It's always a pleasure to be with Noreen and that dear girl brought me some Halloween gifts: Ia pen that is also a punching clown (don't ask) and barrettes of skelton hands. I love them and can't wait to show them off.

Got home at 2:00, just in time for quarter Bingo, of which I won two. The dime one followed after and I stayed for another hour; Paula came in just to watch. Later, my old friend, Doris G., from Ewing/Lawrence called and we had a good chat. 

Paula and I were the only one of our crew who showed for dinner and we had some good talk together. I decided against the roast beef salad and got a turkey burger instead. Back upstairs at 6:00 and I settled in for the night.

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More evangelical material displayed in the multi-purpose room: 

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FRIDAY

Weight was down .03 at home to 141.6, with zero change at T.O.P.S. to 142.8. The meeting was a lot like a therapy session, with Lannie elaborating on the emotional aspects of her overeating. Home by 10:00 and I probably should have gone to balance class, but I didn't.

I was surprised when Kathie knocked on my door to give me a picture of Keith and a little cat box. She was on her way to to daughter's to try to help as much as possible with the violent boyfriend. Poor Kathie--no wonder she has a negative outlook on life. 

Lunched with LaVerne and Paula. This time, I finally remembered to ask for a half portion--it was pork and sides and was actually pretty good and enough for me. 

At 3:00, I went downstairs to see Kevin Gilmond, a terrific singer and actor, who did a Halloween show, singing all kinds of funny and witchy songs. He's one of my favorites: 

You can't see them, but he's wearing cat ears and a cat tail.

Sat with Kathie, LaVerne, and Paula for dinner--fish, not bad--and Kathie, finally at long last, displayed a check she had just gotten for $55,000. It seems that her late husband had done all kinds of financial shenanigans and failed to put her name in his will. Anyway, she contested and, with the help of her daughter, finallly won her case.  

Slept well and my BP has been good. I'm looking forward to seeing Noreen for lunch today.

THURSDAY

 Slow-ish day. Aside from a few daily chores, I didn't do much except play around on the laptop. Had lunch with Kathie, LaVerne, and Paula; crab cakes, which were pretty good. 

Futzed around with this and that until 3:00, when I went to down participate in the "olive toss" game. This was an invention of activities director Minday and entailed a number of household objects. It was wacky, but actually kind of fun. Here are Marge and Doug vying for the win:  

The idea is to roll up the T.-paper without having the objects fall.

Shortly after that, dinner was served; Paula, Denise, and I enjoyed it together. As happens often, neither Kathie nor LaVerne came down, which I don't mind occasionally. Actually, I enjoy the other two--who are younger--though not by much--nd don't act as if life is a chore. During and after dinner, we were treated by surprise guests, a male and female singer who were terrific and, among other things, impersonated Lucy and Desi. They're on tour in some show or other and just got in from Chicago.

Just got up at 5:00 and Cheryl will pick me up for T.O.P.S. I'm not optimistic--sigh...

WEDNESDAY--WHEN WATER CAME OUT OF THE SKY!

 Yes, it rained most of the day and what's more, it's supposed to continue today. Nevertheless, I had a cardiologist appointment, so had to go out.

Had lunch with Kathie, LaVerne, Paula, and Denise and skipped the chili in favor of bagels and salmon. I got an extra one to have during my evening T.V. watchng.

Ellen came at 2:00 and off we went to Cabrillo Cardiology. This was just a follow-up visit and happily, all seems okay. My BP is satisfactory and the slight murmer seems not to have progressed, so I don't need to go back until March for an echo-gram and April for follow-up. 

El brought me a number of Halloween items I had stored at her house and I'll use them during our coming Halloween bash. Can't wait to put this on my door: 

BOO!

Denise and LaVerne were elsewhere, so it was just Kathie, Paula, and me for dinner. The spaghetti was rather bland, but edible; however, Kathie complained about it, as she does about virturally everything else in life. I'm getting tired of her negativity. I know she's had some family problems, but to hear her complain so constantly, no matter the topic, gets wearing. At this point, I'm not sure, but I may want to sit elsewhere for a time.

Activities director Mindy invited me to see the trailer for Queen Bees, a five-year-old old movie about people, mostly women, in an independent living retirement community. It's a comedy, natch--nobody takes old women seriously--and I guess I'll attend the showing. 

TUESDAY AND RELIGION

 Slept well again and just did the everyday stuff until lunch. That I ate with Kathie, Paula, and LaVerne and it was good--for Taco Tuesday, it was chicken tacos.

Hung out after until Bingo at 2:00. I won three games, but only five of us were playing, so it was hardly a big payoff. I was surprised that Mary G. stopped me after to talk about something about which she feels strongly; up to a point, so do I. We discussed the religious overlay that's noticible at The Orchard.  Every Sunday, there's a minister who comes to preach and there are frequent Bible study gatherings. Also, a resident who regularly plays hymns on the piano in the multi-purpose room and others can sing along.  The Chosen* series is shone on a regular basis. All these are scheduled and listed on the weekly printoout. Now, I have no issue at all with what people believe and follow. However, I do object to paying to live here and being bombarded with what seems to be heavily evangelical leanings. Also, this is what's on the piano in the multi-purpose room: 

Note the cross.  Mary and I will talk about all this and possibly discuss it with management, but I'm not optimistic about any change. 

Had dinner with Kathie, LaVerne, Paula, and Denise. I didn't care for the entree, so had one of their yummy hot dogs along with sweet potato fries.     

* The Chosen portrays the life and ministry of Jesus in first-century Galilee and Judea through the eyes of those who met him, blending Gospel events with imagined backstories to give depth to the disciples and other figures. Notable for its high production values, diverse cast, and record-breaking crowdfunding, it has been praised for its emotional impact, relatable characters, and authentic setting, though some note its creative liberties. Critics and audiences often regard it as compelling and worth watching, even beyond religious circles.

MONDAY

 Slept well and participated in balance class at 10:00. Our volunteer leader, Jacquie, has invited us over to her area residence for Halloween. It has something to do with a miniature train, but I'm not quite clear on it.

Had lunch with Kathie, Paula, and Denise, after going down the long staircase; the elevator was closed for repairs, but was operational after lunch. It will be again today, but is no problem, as I take my cart, rather than the bulkier walker. I hadn't intended to, but took a nap after lunch, then filled my medication containers. 

Did a half-hour on the stationary bike, then just hung out playing Internet games until dinner. It was a large, well-made salad with strawberry dressing and we all loved it. I talked to Chef Michael after and complimented him. I sat with the regulars, Kathie, Paula, and Denise and we had our usual in-common talk. Unfortunately, Kathie is having some family problems--hope it's resolved soon.

SUNDAY

 I slept well, I'm happy to record, and didn't get up until 6:00. Although I was brought up to believe doing servile on Sunday was a sin, I decided to defy the edict and change my sheets. I dressed in yesterday's clothes to get the wash to the laundry room, then stayed in them to transfer to the dryer and then pick them up and re-make the bed. After that, I jumped into the shower, washed my hair, and was ready for the day.  

Lunched with the regulars: Kathie, LaVerne, and Denise; Paula was out with her daughter. The other person who did, though, was Denise'es husband, Trent. He had lunch with us and is quite a character.  He lives a few hundred miles away up in the mountains and she lives here at The Orchard. They don't plan on divorce, but can't get along living together. Hey, if they're both satisfied with the arrangement, why not?

At 3:00, I went down to see my friend, Suzy, and her band, "Skin to Steel." They were terrific, as ever:

L. to r., front: Eric, Suzy, and Brian

In the back, Steve, who's Suzy's husband

And here's Eric Lewis, my friend, Cheryl's son, doing a solo.

Cheryl and her husband and sister came, too.

I sat with Paula, then Denise came in and sat with us, too. Kathie didn't show at the show, although she said she might be going. I think her negativety would ease if she'd get a little more involved, but hey, that's her choice ot make. 

Anyway, it was great fun and I think everybody enjoyed it. When I got back to my place, I got a call from my brother, Larry, from Florida. He said he's doing okay, although slowing down a bit--he'll be ninety-five on his next birthday.

SATURDAY

 As mentioned, I had slept poorly and got up at 6:00. After a time, I revived and did my little household chores, as well as played games on the laptop; happily, the Internet was back in operation. Spent twenty minutes on the stationary bike, which I want to do every day.

Had lunch with Kathy, Denise, and Paula. At Kathy's instigation, we're sitting at a different table, but LaVerne opted not to join us. When we have five, she thinks it's too crowded--her choice. After that, I went to the little "store" to pick up a few essential. 

At 2:00, I went to quarter Bingo which, after an hour, changes to dime Bingo. I won two and had an enjoyable time, especially with Mindy''s vodka and orange juice cocktail, served with her freshly baked German pancakes. 

Had dinner with the usual crew, the five of us sittin at a larger table. I was so stuffed with the aforementioned I just ordered a fruit plate and took it home to eat later. 

FRIDAY

 Friday was pretty much a disaster for a lot of Ventura. When Cheryl picked me up for T.O.P.S., she said the electricity had been out for her whole section. She and her husband live up in the hills with a great view, but precarious electrity.  The high winds meant Edison had turned off the juice. Luckily, that didn't happen here. What did happen is that the Internet went down later.

First, though, my weight: I was up .02 at home and .01 at T.O.P.S. for respective weights of 141.8 and 142.8; not good, but not too terrible. Sharon was already dressed in one of her many Halloween-y oufits with matching earrings:    

They're hard to see, but are actually little witches with a fringe.

Sharon also brought me some cute little earrings she had made--kitties in pumpkins!

Besides all that, Sharon invited all of us to a fifty-fifth wedding annivesary for her and Lewis. It's on November 14 and yes, I want to go.

Home about 10:00 and I'm not even sure what I did until I went downstairs to partipate in a kind of "throw the cloth bag into the hole" game. We played in two teams and the game will resume today, as it was dinnertime before we finished. I thought I'd be bored, but actually, it was pretty good fun.

What followed dinner, though, wasn't: The Internet went down in the whole building--maybe, for all I know, areas around the campus. I think it may have beern because of the incredibly strong winds, as that caused the electricity outage. Luckily, it was on when I got up just now at 6:00, and I fervently hope it stays.

Had a terribly time sleeping last night and will definately take a nap before lunch. 

THURSDAY

Put in a white wash, then went down to lunch with Paula and Denise; I'm not sure where Kathie and LaVerne were, but we had a good time. After, I finally started separating the mile-high pile of paper I need to file. 

 I forgot to mention that on Wednesday, Mary Hoffman had called me. She said she had run into George Wimberg and he asked that I call him.  I did so yesterday and we said hello, but he was at a function and said he'd call me later.

Virtuous me, I then spent an hour filing the mountain of papers I had accumulated over weeks. Also sent the water bill to Lori, my tenant, as she's the one who pays it. Finally finished, I went to dinner and aside from Denise, the regulars, Kathie, LaVerne, and Paula were there. It was Mediterranean shrimp with sides and was pretty mediocre, I thought, but I ate it anyway. 

Slept well, but again am not  looking forward to T.O.P.S. for obvious reasons. 

WEDNESDAY

 Had lunch with LaVerne, Paula, and Denise--Kathie was out with her daughter. We had cod with a good sauce and asparagus and even better talk. Denise just had to have two teeth pulled and is still recovering, but she was in good form.

After lunch, Ellen called and we discuss the power of attorney thing. She spoke to the attoney who did her friend, Joanne's, mother. Sounds good, as it will include "in trust" stuff and so on. I'm glad she's taking care of this.

Went downstairs to have nurse Jasmyne do my BP. Happily, it was 132 over 81, good for me. I think the increase in medication Natalie made did the trick, as the BP has been good when I take it, too. 

I watered my plants on the porch and cleaned up a bit out there before changing to meet Katherine and Julie when they picked me up at 4:15. We were early at Portolas Restaurant in Oxnard, but that was okay. About fourteen of us met for dinner and had a great time. I had fettuchine Alfrado--yummy--and a good hazy IPA, and enjoyed the talk and laughs all around. Home a little before 7:00 (I'm not often out that late) after a very enjoyable outing. Hmm...much as I like living at The Orchard, it's good to be away from there every once in a while with other friends. 

TUESDAY

Finally, I kept my promise to myself and attended Bone Builders at 10:15. I actually like the balance classs better and I'll be there this morning.

Lunch: Of our group, only Paula, LaVerne, and I were there, which was okay. It was "Taco Tuesday" and the beef taco was good.  After that, I just hung out until dime Bingo at 2:00. That really wasn't that much fun, as Mindy had other obligaitons and had resident Ada call. Ada means well, I guess, but was wasn't much of a caller. However, I won two and replenished my dime trove.

I was pleased to have my friend, Kathryn, text me to ask if I wanted to go to the BCNN dinner group  today. Sure, why not, and she'll pick me up at 4:25. 

Had dinner with Kathie, LaVerne, Paula, and Denise and mistakenly told them I won't be in for lunch today. Should have told them dinner, but no big deal. 

Slept well, I'm happy to say, all the way to 7:00 am. 

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Memories: A co-worker and I at our place of employment, c. 1956; I'm on the right. Yes, I dressed like that every day, including the four- or five-inch heels.

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MONDAY

 Lunch with Kathie, Paula, and LaVerne. The chicken and sides didn't appeal to me, so I ordered a turkey sandwich; ate half,  and took the other half home for my evening snack.

Ellen picked me up at 1:00, leaving off the detergent and lemons I needed, and bringing me two pairs of sneakers. She had bought them on-line and can't wear them; one fit, the other was too big. We then  went to Primary Medical. We consulted with Natalie, the P.A. whom I like a lot and who seems to me as knowledgeable and careful as any doctor. She went over a lot of my medications, eliminated one, and increased the dosage of another. Fine by me. While there, I also got a flu shot. 

On the way home, El broached the subject of medical and legal power of attorney. With my knowledge and approval and that of her brothers, she and her sister will assume those duties. She had gotten the information about an attorney from Betty's daughter, but I want to call a few places first.

Home after 3:00 and I just played solitaire on this laptop until time for dinner. Sat with Kathie, Denise, and Paula; LaVerne sat elsewhere, presumably because she objects to putting five at the table. Okay by me, as we had less in common than the other three.

No plans for today, except for dime Bingo at 2:00.     

SUNDAY

Unfortunately, I again didn't sleep well, so took a short nap. I then stripped the bed, washed, dried, and re-made. Lunched with Kathie, Paula, and Denise; LaVerne didn't show. It was salmon with sides of sweet potatoes and rice, plus special olives from Italy-- very good.

Back at my place, I did some paper/laptop work, then wandered downstairs. I was surprised to see dime Bingo was being played and I immediately sat down to play. I won two before Cindy, the volunteer area residents who conducts Yahtzee, showed up and invited to come upstairs to the card lounge and play. I did, although frankly, I don't even like Yahtzee much. I do, however, like Cindy, so joined her, Beverly, and Reggie to play for an hour.

Dinnertime was shortly thereafter and I enjoyed Paula and Denise--sometimes, it's just as well not to have others at the table. After dinner, Denise and I sat and talked and talked--interesting stuff. Back home, I showered and washed my hair, then settled in for the night. 

SATURDAY

Slept okay, but still, took a short nap before lunch. Had that meal with the usuals, excluding Denise, who sat at the next table. Before LaVerne came, Kathie told us she, LaVerne, said she had felt "smoushed" with five of us at a table for four. Okay, we'll see about putting tables together to sit six. 

I went to the docutmentary on John Lennon at 1:00. I actually got a little bored with it, but stayed until the end, then went to the gathering room to play quarter, then dime Bingo. Won a few and enjoyed it. 

Of our little group, only Paula and I showed up for dinner, which isn't too unusual, as the other three often cook for dinner. As usual, Paula and I had some good conversation.

Mike facetimed me at 8:00 and we had a good Mommy/Boy talk. He'll be going to Japan shortly and, I hope, will see the Tokyo Trio. No plans for today, which is fine by me. 

FRIDAY AND THE HIGH LIFE

Poundage report: Well, I lost, but such miniscule amounts it'll take me a year to get back to my desired weight. I was down .02 at home and .05 at T.O.P.S. for respective weights of 140.8 and 142. 

I sat down to lunch with Kathie, LaVerne, Paula, and Denise. Since I was the fifth one at the table for four, Denise moved over and I moved in. To my, and everyone else's surprise, LaVerne, without a word, got up and moved to the next table. According to Kathie, LaVerne had said five at the table "wasn't proper." I had already had the idea that LaVerne was somewhat judgemental about Kathie and my occasional choice of salty language and maybe, my lack of religious belief. 

At 2:00, I went down to Happy Hour, which featurered one of my favorites, the Dynamic Duo:  

Pam sang many of the old favorites--those by Sinatra, The Platters, Sam Cooke, and others. It was great fun and all enjoyed it.

Paula and I had dinner together just the two of us, as our other regulars stayed in their apartments. I was pleased when she mentioned what I was about to myself: that it was nice occasionally to be able to talk one-on-one. Yes and I like Paula more and more as I get to know her. It's funny that I think of her as much younger than I am--about my daughters' ages, in the sixties--when she's actually over 80. There's something so young about her--and I mean that in a good way.

Slept well and I'm looking forward to a John Lennon bio documentary in the multi-purpose room at 1:00 and quarter Bingo at 2:00--wow, I'm leading the high life!  😜 

THURSDAY AND OKTOBERFEST

 The day was a little draggy at first. I didn't get up until 7:30, then mostly lazed around until lunch. I had that with Kathie, Paula, and LaVerne. After, I ordered from Amazon, low-cal peanut butter, no sugar added candy, and some unmentionables--all right, adult underware, why be subtle?

Went outside to sit in the 85 degree sunshine for a bit. While there, I called Mary Hoffman, with whom I hadn't spoken for months. We graduated from HSHS together in 1954, although she's 13 months older than I am. We had a good chat and will keep in touch.

I went in after that to enjoy the German-themed Oktoberfest, starting at 4:00 pm with cocktails; it was a lot of fun and here's the print-out about it:

Above: The first floor was decorated nicely.

Many of the staff were in Germany-theme attire; here are Director Tiffany and Activities Directory Mindy

Maintenance guy, Joe

Our van driver, Rick

The servers were in German-themed outfits, too. Here's one of my favorites, Anthony; BTW, he wasn't able to serve me my beer--too young.

Anyway, the food was good and entertainment was terrific--German dancers who brought the house down: 

Several residents dressed up, too, and helped with the occasion:

Residents Katherine and Mary as pretend barmaids.

Today T.O.P.S., to which--again--I'm not looking forward. Mary Ann is still overwhemed, but Cheryl will pick me up. BTW, I have no idea while the print has turned blue, but oh, well...

WEDNESDAY

 I went downstairs at 8:00 an to have Katherine to pick me up at 8:15.  She's not usually late, but it got to be 8:25 and she still wasn't here. Hey, maybe she texted me she'd be late, so I looked--oops, she had said she'd pick me up at 8:55, not 8:15--my mistake. She got here just when she said she would and off we went to the Oxnard Yacht Club. The program had an anthropolgist outlining the human history of the Santa Monica mountains area, starting 13,000 years ago and was very interesting: 

We didn't go to lunch after, which was fine by me. I was home by 11:30 and had lunch with Kathie, LaVerne, and Paula. After, I put in a large load of wash, then did twenty minutes on the stationary bike. Retreived my wash and hung the ones I don't put in the dryer on my patio/porch. It's so hot I knew they'll be dry by dinnertime.

At the BCNN meeting, I saw Judy A., who's a friend of my T.O.P.S. friend, Bobbi R. What's interesting about Bobbi (who's two years younger than I am) is that she had been an au pair in Ventnor during her high school summers; she lived in Brooklyn. Heavens, it's quite possible we had seen each other. I called Bobbi and unfortunately, she isn't doing too well. I knew both she and her husband have cancer and seem to be facing the end. I hope they get a reprieve.

I went downstairs to have the visiting nurse take my BP. Hey, this had happened before: Far from experiencing the well-known "white coat syndrome (higher BP because of nervousness), I registered 134/73, better than I usually get on my own. 

Had dinner with Paula, Denise, and LaVerne and it was lasagna--really delish and accompanied by a good salad and sides. 

Ellen called to fill me in on her getting my rental insurance (which is required of residents here). She'll bring the papers when she picks me up on Monday for my Primary Medical appointment and will bring the lemons and detergent I requested, too.

I was surprised and pleased to get a text from my ex-daughter-in-law, Paula, asking how I was doing. I wrote back and we had nice exchange. I still care for her and am glad the divorce unpleasantness seems to be over--or at least put on the back burner. 

TUESDAY

The Assess Van got me to Ellen's a little before noon. After hanging out for a while, we left for Santa Barbara and the Boat House restaurant. Carolyn came shortly after and we settled in:

The food was yummy and so was the hazy IPA. After a leisurely meal, we left for Villa Alamar, where Betty has lived for the past several years. At the same time I wanted to see her, I dreaded it--a strange mix of emotions which others who have known alzheimers too intimately must feel.

Betty no longer knows who I am, nor does she speak, except occasinally in a garbled way. Attendents puree her food and feed her, but even so, she's lost a lot of weight. She doesn't walk, but is in a wheelchair permanently now. 

We stayed for about an hour and Ellen, Carolyn, and I played gin rummy while Betty watched. That may seem like a peculiar thing to do, but why not? Betty doesn't know anything that's going on and, though we didn't deal her in, she watched and--maybe, who knows?--got some enjoyment out of it.

Saying goodbye was, as always, something I wanted to get over with. I whispered to her "I love you" and, as I always do, "wait for me." I'm not even sure what I mean by that, but I've been saying it to her since we were children. Betty has a big picture window and Carolyn took this picture of Ellen and me as we waved goodbye: 

Traffic was horrendus going back to Ventura, but we got in at 5:30. Dinner had already been served, but I got two bagels and salmons, one I ate then, the other for a nightime snack. While I ate in the dining room, Ellen went up to my apartment to do a few businees things for me. When I went back up, we visited for a time, then said goodbye. How I could ever got along without her, I never want to contemplate.  

As for my overall feeling about the day, Thomas Wolfe said it best in Look Homeward, Angel: 

 "O lost, and by the wind grieved/Ghost, come back again."

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MONDAY

 I slept well--until 7:30, in fact--did my morning routine, then went down to balance class. I had forgotten that leader Jackie wouldn't be there, but resident Elaine led reasonably well. After, I saw Beverly in the dining room, just sitting there all by herself, so I sat with her and we chatted for twenty or so. During her working life, she had been a psyhologist, and specialized in teenagers. She's well over ninety now and seems to be failing a bit; however, we had a good talk. As I was heading for the elevator, I saw my other older friend--Anita will be 96 in December--waiting for her hair dresser to pick her up. Anita, whom I like a lot, and I chatted for a bit. 

Lunch with the regulars, sans Denise, who had said she was going to veg out at home for the day. It was pasta with a side of squash medley--very good. After, Paula invited Kathie and me to her place, saying she had something to give us. Her apartment is a studio and nicely decorated with a lot of old family pictures. What she wanted to give us were some little wrapped candies; she had a lot of them. I avoid sugar, but took a few to be polite and stowed them in the freezer.  

Nothing much going on elsewise. I had dinner with Kathie and Paula and was treated to toothpick ice cream after (well, it was the regular dessert). 

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Yep, it was a hundred degrees yesterday, Monday, October 5, here in Ventura, California.

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SUNDAY

Lunch with the usuals, aside from LaVerne, who didn't show. Entree was shrimp, which was good, as was the salad, rice, and asparagus. After we ate, I put together my RX meds for the week, both morning and night, plus the vitamens and supplements.  

At 2:00, we gathered in the dining room for Chef Michael's olive oil presentation. He had a display of, and explained a lot about,various olives and olive oils. The spread was delicous, especially the coarse bread dipped in balsamic, also the olives of various kinds. We all enjoyed it and I brought some home to eat as a T.V. snack.

Chef Michael setting up.

There was considerably more than this once he finished.

While I was there, Ellen called to see if I was available tomorrow, Tuesday, to go to Santa Barbara, meet niece Carolyn for lunch, then go see Betty. Yes, indeed, and I'll call the Access Van to take me to Ellen's; she'll take me home.

I got a text and pictures from Susan, my Soaring Spirits friend. She's in San Diego at a dog show and  here she is:

Susan's the one on the right with her adorable little Gismo. I'm going to skip Soaring Spirits lunch this time, as Susan's out of town and I  have outings the next two days, anyway. 

Had dinner with Paula and LaVerne; Kathie didn't show, which isn't unusual. I skipped the so-called Philly cheese steak for a large vegetable salad (well, I guess all salad's are vegetable, but this had additions). 

SATURDAY

 Noreen called me at 7:00 am  to say she had picked up some Halloween-y things for me--what a sweetheart. I want to see her soon for lunch. Sat with Paula and Denise for lunch here, then went to the "store," where I used funny money to buy a packet of nuts and hangers. Signed and dropped off  my rent raise notice, which starts November 1.

Down to quarter Bingo at 2:00 and I played my usual four cards. I won twice and replenished my supply. We then switched to dime Bingo and I won one there, too. 

Nothing much else going on today, except I straightened up the apartment a bit. Went downstairs to take my artifacts out of the showcase, since it's now October and the new theme is Octoberfest. Did a few other little chores, which are too boring to mention except they included dusting and so on. 

I was pleased when my friend, Kathryn, texted me to ask if I wanted to go the BCNN meeting on Wednesday. Yes, indeed, and she'll pick me up at 8:15.

Had dinner with the usuals, five of us at a table for four, but that's okay. Chef Michael had a new banner put up:

I know they're promoting the Mediterranean diet, in which I'm interested and today, Chef Mike will do a seminar and tasting on olives and olive oil; I'm looking forward to it. 

FRIDAY AND MEMORIES OF KEITH

When Mary Ann picked me up for T.O.P.S., I told her I preferred not to go to breakfast after all. I was tired and just didn't feel up to it. She was okay with that and maybe we'll go next week. At home, I was down four tenths of a pound to 141 even; at the meeting, down .5 to 141. Big whoops, but at least it wasn't up. Sharon had one of her snappy outfits on, this one including a matching hat:

Home, I changed, then napped for an hour before going down to lunch. Only Paula was there, then Bea joined us. I knew Denise was on the thrift store and lunch trip, but Kathie wasn't there, either. I was stunned when LaVonne came up to me and gave me this card: 

* See below.

LaVonne said she had found it in a book in our library. Presumably, Keith as taken the book out and used the card as as bookmark. Re the note on the card, which mentions it was for his thirty-fifth birthday--that was forty-four years ago. I'm amazed LaVonne gave it to me and I greatly appreciate it; I'll cherish it.

After lunch, I stopped in to see Mindy and she apolozied profusely that she hadn't called me: It seems the group that pedals the "bike" couldn't find anyone able to get here, so it was cancelled. Hey, that was okay with me. Although I enjoyed it when I went before, I was pretty sure Kathie had forgotten. I called her and yes, she had. It turned out okay, but if it had gone as planned and Kathie didn't show, I would have been very much annoyed.

Went to Happy Hour at 3:00 and enjoyed the violinest/singer, who first played classical music...

...then turned into Elvis:

It was great fun and I had a Margarita and popcorn, too. Although that was shortly before dinner, I ate the chicken bowl and it was pretty good. Sat with Kathie, LaVerne, Paula, and Denise and we had our usual free-ranging talk, peppered with laughs and a few appropriate naughty words.

I was pleased to get a Facetime call from son Mike and we had a good chat. He said Violet was doing well at SCAD and he sent me some pictures and a video she had taken. 

* On the card:  "You're 35 now and for 15 years, it's been a friendship and I am looking forward to another 50 more. Best wishes on your birthday!  Boris (?) & Shelly" 

Thursday

 I had every intention of going to Bone Builders, but didn't get there, due to a nap that ran over. 

Had lunch with Kathie, LaVerne, and Paula and skipped the pork chop entree for my yummy bagels and lox (salmon). After, Jeanne Painter called and we had a good, long conversation. She had attended George Wimberg's ninetieth birthday in July and told me about it, also the fact that George's wife is in hosptice with Alzheimer's and other problems. The three Wimberg sisters, Lois, Carole, and Joan had jointly bought a house in Hawaii and invited Jeanne to come visit--she may or may not. Anyway, it was fun to hear again from the prettiest girl in our graduating class.

At 3;30, I attended the final "Japan Month" presentation, by a woman named Leanette, who is of Japanese decent. She was born here, but lived in Sapporo, Japan with her military husband and family:

Leanette and I posed with the Japanese display I provided. 

Leanette was accompanied by another Japanese woman. In front of them is the Kota, a Japanese instrument Leanette played.

 She also shared scrapbooks and other items with the audience.

I spoke to Leanette after and learned that she comes to the "Hawaian Meeting" at our clubhouse every Saturday. I may go over and join them sometime.

Directly after the presentation we had dinner; I sat with Kathie, Paula, and Denise. Unfortuantely, Paula, with whom I had scheduled the "rickshaw" type ride for this afternoon, told me she was unable to go. I asked Kathie if she'd like to and she will. T.O.P.S. first, of course. Mary Ann will pick me up and no, I'm not optimistic, but who knows what? I don't.  

After dinner, I put in a white wash, retrieving it later just before I changed into my jammies. I've seen a resident now and then--once in a while, not often--got get their laundry while dressed in robe and slippers. I'm not going to be doing that.  

WEDNESDAY

Slow day. Had lunch with Paula and LaVerne--Kathie was out with her daughter. I did little else except some minor financial stuff, nap, and play dime Bingo. My friend, Beverly, wants to give me a pillow that goes on the walker--she's getting a new one. It should be useful, especially when I go out to eat and can barely see over the table, at Sea Fresh, in porticular.

Napped after lunch, then did a few household chores, but mostly played games on the laptop. Had dinner with Kathie, LaVerne, Paula, and Denise. After, I rode the stationary bike for twenty minutes--that was about the only sustained exercise I got yesterday.

I stayed up until after 10:00, unusual for me, but slept well and just got up at 7:30. 

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This came up on One Drive. That's my father, reclining and looking impish on the second row right and my mother, two away from his right, on a picnic before they were married. Circa 1923.

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TUESDAY

 Slept okay and got up at 7:30. I dressed, got my coffee, then took  45-minute nap until it was time for 
Bone Builders at 10:15. After, I stopped into to Mindy's place to sign Paula and me up for the "bike" rider on Friday. Sat with the regulars, Kathie, LaVerne, Paula, and Denise, for lunch.  

At 2:00, I went down to dime Bingo. I won a game although, because there only six of us there, it was a miniscule amount, but I didn't care, I enjoyed it. 

What I did next, I didn't enjoy: I checked the mail. In it, there was a notice from management that my rent will increase by $323 a month starting November 1. What I find most infuriating is not that the rent was increased--I expect\ that every year--but I still have to pay $55 a month or $660 a year for the damn medic alert pendent that I've never taken out of the box. My insurance provides me one free of charge, but of course, managment will never allow me to skip the payment.  

Okay, enough of that boring money stuff. Ellen came at 5:30, bringing my paper towels, medication, and so on, then we left for the Dudley House covered dish, pot luck dinner. It was fun and interesting, as ever, and it was good to see my old D. House friends. However, I think my days of docent-hood, i.e. leading tours, are over, as my memory isn't what it used to be. The speaker, whose name I forget, impersonated Benjamin Dudley and talked about his experiences fighting in the War Between the States:                                                   

                                                   

Here, he's showing some of the reins of the horse he rode in battle. 

The buffet--brought by the guests--was good and I had several pasta dishes. I was surprised--and mildly disappointed--that there was no wine. At every other potluck, several people had brought some, but last night, it was simply water and Sprite; I had the latter.

It was after 8:00 when I got home--the middle of the night!--and I settled in to play Jeopardy on the tube. No plans for today, but there's balance class at 10:00 and dime Bingo at 3:00 and I want to go to them. 

MONDAY

I bestirred myself sufficiently to go to balance class at 10:00. I was sorry to hear that leader Jackie has to go upstate to deal with a problem of her son, who is in a mental hospital. Jackie won't be here on Friday or for several days in the next two weeks.

Had lunch with Kathie, LaVerne, and Paula, during which Ellen called. I got back to her later and we discussed our plans for this evening, when we attend the Dudley House potluck. She'll stop at the supermarket to got something to share there before picking me up at 5:30.    

I was glad to get a text from manacurist Elika asking if she could do me at 3:00 today, istead of 3:30. Yes, that will be much better, as I was getting both fingers and toes down. Went up to the salon and was out of there in an hour and a half--time to got down to dinner. It wasn't nearly the ordeal I anticipated, as Elika is a nice young woman and an excellent manucurist. Unfortunately, when I took off my shoes, she told me the nails on my two smaller left toes had fallen off. I never even noticed, as I can't see that far.  Elika said she believes I have a fungus--I'll call Primary Medical today to get the P.A.'s advice.

Had dinner with Kathie, LaVerne, Paula, and Denise and the orange chicken was pretty good. Slept well and just now stripped the bed to wash. I like to do that on Tuesdays, as that's the day Doo-Lannie comes in to clean. 

SUNDAY

I spent a good portion in the morning on the phone. Talked to a family member in Jersey, then Sharon, then Noreen, both here, then Doris in Virginia. After that, I went to The Orchard library (near my apartment) and borrowed two books. I wish a librarian could be kidnapped and made to put the shelves in some kind of order. I rarely read fiction and it's hard to find non- among the lady novelists.

Went downstairs to ask Tia to print me out a monthly schedule. Every week, we're left at our doors a meal schedule and an activity schedule, but not the monthly one and sometimes if I don't know what's coming up, I'm off campus and miss it. 

As I was going back to my apartment, a young woman visitor asked me if I had made the wreath on my door. No, my niece gave it to me, but we started chatting. It seems her in-laws had just moved in down the hall; unfortunately, her mother-in-law fell and broke two ribs, but is recovering well in the hospital. I'll look forward to meeting them. On the elevator, I met another new resident, this one named Judy (I know three other Judies here) and we chatted; I hope to see her again. 

Had lunch with Kathie, LaVerne, Paula, and Denise and we had our usual enjoyable time. After, I road the stationary bike for twenty minutes--little enough, but at least, I did it--while reading the new book I picked up in our so-called library about the royal families and its problems. 

Poured clog drainer in the kitchen sink. It really isn't clogged, just seems rather slow and I figured it couldn't hurt. Aside from that, I cleaned up a bit during the quiet day.

I had planned to go to Yatzee at 3:00, but I saw Tia and she said didn't show today. No prob, I'll just find something productive to do--HA! I spent my afternoon playing various games on the laptop. 

Kathie and LaVerne stayed in their apartments for dinner, as they often do, but Paula and Denise were at our usual place. Trish joined us and it was fun to have her there. Several years ago, she broke her--hip? vertebrae? I can't remember which, but she's in a wheelchair and has an aide. Her mind in sharp, though, and she really doesn't belong is assisted living. Anyway, it was good talking to her.

I asked Paula if she'd like to go with me and take the "bike" ride I enjoyed so much last week.  Yes, she would and I'll let Mindy know tomorrow. (She's off on Sundays and Mondays.)

SATURDAY

 Not much activity in the morning besides my usual routine. Had lunch with Kathie, Laverne, and Paula. Kathie again complained of virturally everything about The Orchard, comparing it to Scottsdale, as she always does. Personally, I like the place and am glad I'm here. I like Kathie, too and feel sorry for her, as she has some problems, of various kinds--but it gets wearisome to listen to her constant complaints.

Went to quarter Bingo at 2:00 and won three games. Mindy brought her adorable little kitten in and we had a ball playing with her. M. also brought in and gave each of us a brownie, but I don't eat sweets and took it to dinner to see if anyone wanted it.

As it turned out, Denise joined Kathie, LaVerne, Paula, and me and I gave her the brownie. I always enjoy Denise--she's full of fun--and she enjoyed seeing my pictures of the sock hop. She would have gone, but was out with friends for the day.

Before dinner, I decided to put in a load of color wash. Went the the laundry closest to me and found both washers were taken, so I took them to the one on the further wing.  I didn't mind, though--I'm glad they're available. 

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Note: Wonders will never cease here in Fairyland: What I call "toothpick ice cream" (i.e., with no added sugar) has been offered after dinner since I asked Chef Michael about it at the "Food for Thought" meeting the other day! 

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FRIDAY: TOPS AND THE HOP

 The weight wasn't good, but it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. At home, I put on .08 for a weight of 141.4 and at T.O.P.S., I added .06 to 142.3. It's certainly well over my ideal, but I'm going to work on it.

Instead of going to balance class, I took a nap, then had lunch with Kathie, LaVerne, and Paula. After that, I went up to the salon to Caitlin and my haircut. She did a nice job--just under the ears--and when she was almost finished, who came in but Kathie, her daughter, granddaughter, and two adorable little great-grandsons, 3-year-old Tanner and 5-month-old Lane, along with their little puppy--he was in the baby coach. 

I went directly from the salon to the clubhouse, where the "Sock Hop" was happening. I missed the food, but had a Margarita and actually jived a little to the music. Here are some of the fellas and girls going to it with the swinging '40s and '50s tunes, courtesy of entertainer Kevin Gillmond. I know all the party-goers, but there's no point in identifying them, so I won't. Anyway, it was fun:

We don't have that many couples living here, but many of the few who do were on the dance floor. 

By the time the hop was over, it was almost dinnertime. I went upstairs to get a few things, then joined Kathie and Paula at the table. The entree, glazed ham,  didn't appeal to me, so I had a turkey burger, which was good, as ever. And yes, toothpick ice cream was available--chef Michael had kept his promise. 

THURSDAY AND TOOTHPICK ICE CREAM

 I went to the 11:00 am "Food For Thought" and got Chef Michael to promise to offer what I call "ice pick ice cream" (no sugar added) regularly. We'll see if he holds to it.* Other than that, it was the usual--some complaints, but not serious ones, and some praise. Actually, I think the food service is pretty good--very good, at times.

After, we went directly to lunch, which I had with the regulars, i.e., Kathie, LaVerne, and Paula. It was good, although ice cream (any version) wasn't on the menu; it was Boston cream pie for dessert, which I, of course, skipped.  

I got a call from the radiology place that I owe them eighty-five bucks for my last whatever-it-was. Why wouldn't my insurance have covered all? I'll have to look into that, damnit. MaryAnn again isn't going to T.O.P.S., but Cheryl will take me. I know I've gained and have just lost my incentive, I'm afraid. 

The rest of the day until dinner? Almost a complete a wash and a waste. I spent time on computer games and worse, several hours napping. LaVerne skipped dinner and besides Kathie and Paula, Denise sat with us. I like her so much and enjoy her telling us about her relationship with her husband, who lives in the mountains. They are not divorced and have no intention of getting divorced, but can't live together. Okay, it suits their livestyles and no problem. 

Well, imagine: I ordered some grocery items from Smart 'n' Final about 4:00 and they were delivered to my door at 6:30. Okay, that's my new favorite place to shop! 

* He did and I had a scoop for dinner dessert.

WEDNESDAY

 After some problems with my RLS when I first went to bed, I slept pretty well. Got up for coffee, then bestirred myself to go to balance class at 10:00.  After and back upstairs, I heard from Ellen, who was due at 11:30, that she needed to stop at the post office first and would probably be here closer to noon.  

She was and soon, we took off for town. We stopped first at the bank so I could pick up some check registers. I use my debit card for almost everything and not often for checks, but I record all my transactions that way and it works for me. We then went to the car wash to get her chariot all shiny clean, then decided it was time for lunch and we went to the Hill Street Cafe. It was lovely sitting out on the veranda, which they've refurbished. El got a big salad and I a smaller one with half a turkey sandwich and a cold beer. Very good.

We then went to Wal-Mart to pick up household necessities, as well as other things. I got Charmin to replay Paula for lending me two rolls when I ran out--added a roll for interest. El came back to my place to visit for a bit and I asked if she wanted two throw blankets I had and don't use. Yes, indeedy, and she was pleased to get them. She left about 4:15 and soon, it was time to go down to dinner. 

I ate with Kathie, Paula, and LaVerne; it was manicotti, which was tasty. Then it was back upstairs to take my white slacks and iron to the laundry room, where I ironed them to wear today.    

"Food for Thought" is scheduled for 11:00 today. It's a gathering with Director Tiffany and Chef Michael where residents can ask questions and discuss concerns. I'll be there, that's a cinch, to ask why no-sugar-added ice cream can't be offered every day. Come to think of it, if that's my level of serious concern, I shouldn't complain. 😆
                                                

TUESDAY

 As mentioned, I slept well. Did my morning stuff, then went to the 10:15 Bone Builders class. As ever, Lulu* came in when it was three-quarters over. She does that every single time for meals, presentations, exercise class and you name it. In my book, she's in contention for the "Most Annoying Resident" title. Of course, there are other contenders.

Alicia and Raoul, both of whom are in Bone Builders, had birthdays (they're not related) and Marilyn brought in a cake with candle. I congratulated them, but skipped the cake.

Lunch with Paula and LaVerne--Kathie didn't show, which isn't unusual; she was out with her daughter. After, I hung out until it was time for dime Bingo. Went down, played, and won two games--amusingly, the first and last games. Back at my place, I put in a medium wash before dinner... 

...with Kathie and Paula. After, I retrived my wash, folded, and put away. I hung my tops out on the patio for a time, then inside and they'll be dry by morning, if not sooner. Decided not to wash my hair when I showered, as Caitlin is going to cut it on Friday and will wash it then.

Of all things, my phone rang at 8:45 and of all people, it was Stella calling. I haven't talked to her for months, but that's okay. She tends to talk on and on and to bemoan the fact that her son, Joshua, lives in Spain; no other descendents. I've met Josh and think he's a nice guy. Anyway, S. and I talked for fifteen or so, and we'll keep in touch and meet for lunch one of these days. One thing: She asked if I felt "trapped." No, I don't, I like it here, but I thought that was an odd question. 

Ellen's coming today and we'll go shopping, then to lunch; can't wait to hear about her weekend trip to San Diego. 

* That's a fictitious name, natch. 

MONDAY

For the first time in months, I went downstairs to breakfast. Why? Because I wanted to say goodbye to Keith's brother, Kelly, who was leaving in the morning. I was surprised and pleased to see Kathy come down, too.  The three of us held a kind of psuedo wake, reminiscing about our experiences with Keith. It was comforting and after, Kathie and I hugged Kelly and wished him well.

Here's Keith's college graduation picture, c. 1970.

It was 8:45 when I got home and I immediately took an hour nap. Got up refreshed and went down to the multi-purpose room for balance class. Followed that by tidying up a bit, then it was time for lunch.

At lunch, I sat with Kathie, LaVerne, and Paula and we shared more Keith memories, but not for long. Keith is gone and so is Kelly and, distressing as it is to accept that, as humans must after any such loss. I didn't want the jambalaya, so got a hot dog and life went on.

Happpy day, I got emailed the Merchantile license, so now I'm in the clear. I called my "agent" and we had a lovely chat.

Mindy had taken this picture  of Mary and me--and others--for Japan week and it was shown on the screens in several gathering rooms: 

After lunch, I did a few minor chores, then went outside to sit in the sunshine for a time and make a few phone calls. When I came in, I ran into Trudie and chatted with her for twenty or so. She does needlepoint and is working on a lovely scence of a mill in a forest. Unfortuantely, she's also dealing with cancer and a number of other physical problems; she'll enter Communiity Medical next week.

Susan (and her little Gismo) picked me up at 5:15 for our monthly dinner with Soaring Spirits. Besides us, only Nardell, Renee, and Grendal (the last two pickleball people) were there, but we had our usual good time and good talk. Home by 7:00 or so and it was already amost dark. Slept well and just got up at almost 9:00.